I was recently DX BPII last year. I am a father to three WONDERFUL sons (11,7&5).

When my ex and I met, we literally spent six hours sitting in my little Honda Civic after our first date. We talked about EVERYTHING. I distinctly remember telling her "there is something wrong with me, and I don't want to pass it on to a child".

For what it's worth, I love my children dearly. I wouldn't give them up for anything. That said.... I know I'm not the father they deserve. I'm getting better, day by day, but they deserve better than me.

My life has been so chaotic...... I would NEVER choose to intentionally bring a child into my life. The kicker? My ex has turned out to be the "loony toon" of the two of us! I have the children almost full time. That means I have to suck it up and be the best Dad I can be.

I would totally understand if someone decided to not have children because of their BP issues. I would NEVER fault someone for not having kids.