Thanks MKAC. <3 I could've considered a separate thread but I guess I'm a bit shy :P
It's scary for me since I've always had something external to break out of them whenever they even started. I was never really alone so there was always loud noises or other people talking etc, which let me stop it before it even happened kinda. But I'm more trusting and more...open? with my T, so they come more easily. I think if my t leaned forward it'd scare me too, but maybe not if she came by my side. Direct confrontation vs indirect y'know. I dunno. I'll have to talk about it with her, but it's tough.
Going quiet is a good indicator, true. I usually am making little 'Uh huh' or 'Yea' sounds as she speaks because it helps keep me focused and processing what she says, and it helps to make sure I remember it. I'll have to tell her that.
Thank you for replying. <3 I wasn't really expecting anyone to, but it's nice to see I'm not alone.
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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
I'm a little concerned this post might get overlooked because of the nature of this thread. You might get more responses if you start a separate thread. I am NOT saying you shouldn't post this here, but I would like to see you get a lot of responses and some help with this.
My T and I discussed this. He cannot tell even from my eyes when I am having a flashback or dissociating. My complete and utter silence is the only clue, but sometimes I'm silent just because I'm thinking. We agreed that he will just check in with me periodically if I'm silence for an extended period.
In terms of what helps during the flashbacks, that varies a lot by person. For me, having him touch me is helpful. Several times, he has bumped my foot with his. This last time was really horrible. He leaned forward and took my hand and talked to me fairly softly but firmly and that was hugely helpful. I have read others mention that having the therapist lean forward toward them makes them more fearful.
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