No I left, after 13 years of lonliness. I thought I was too needy and tried to be busy and join activities. He didn't talk , wouldn't go to counselling, never wanted to do anything with me. I never realised that to not touch or talk was a form of mental cruelty. I stayed because of the kids .Big mistake. They didn't get the best of me because I was always trying to get closer to him. I wonder now if he was depressed. But if He wouldn't talk what could I do.?A marriage is two people. He was never home and would have days off work always different.from me. He didn't want to do anything and if I did he would make me feel so quilty. Today I have a bf who listens and is there for me no matter what. We have so much fun and there is lots of laughter and loving and respect. We both love to dance and sing and garden and bike. We have had a couple of spats in the last 3 1/2 years but we talk and usually end up laughing because of something we miscommunicated. Our thoughts and ideas are usually on the same page. Something I never really understood when I was young was that marriage and relationships are like waves. We get closer and closer and then at times we may be busy and a little more distant and then the next wave comes and we are so close again. My ex. never grabbed the wave. He wasn't affectionate, didn't want sex. He never said he loved me. I wondered why he married me. My relationship now is so sharing. I get flowers and told I am loved everyday. We both help each other and are there for each other. I wouldn't care if I never got flowers because he shows me how much he loves in many ways. This is long. If you want to talk p.m me.