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Originally Posted by Leed
Just a question, but what would happen if you were more FIRM with husband? What would happen if you TOLD him "I need more HELP!!" Meaniing with the packing, with the kids, etc. Would it end up in a screaming match, would he yell & holler at you and berate you? Would he be surprised that you got FIRM with him? Do you think that for ONCE he'd actually help you? Or is it a lost cause?
Just wondering. Sometimes if we do something out of character, we spur them into action. LOL Big hugs, Lee  |
Unfortunately, I've tried it ALL! If I'm firm with him he throws in my face that he works and I'm unemployed therefor I need to do it all! Nevermind that in the 10 years I was employed he'd skip from job where he was unemployed for months at a time and I still did everything AND worked! If I were to bring it up, it would end the same. It would start with what I said above then move into screaming when I would tell him it didn't matter, I still needed help. I've told him recently, I can't pack this whole house by myself, pack and clean the new place, and do the moving sale and do it all... I just can't! I try. One day last week, he was very understanding... surprised the hell out of me. But this week he's back to I have to do it all in 8 days when we move... gotta have the moving sale this weekend, by myself, while he works. Just tired. Worst yet, after we move, then it'll be all ME unpacking it as well... but only able to put things where he wants them. I have no opinion or say in anything "WE" do (which is him, his decision, do what he wants). I just can't continue this way. This is not who I am!