thanx guys, i am feeling a bit better today, she tried to ring me late last night while i was sleeping, i just diverted the call and went back to sleep. i felt kinda angry that she would do that, i mean ideally i'd like a good relationship w/her but so long as she is in denial about how sick she is (undiagnosed bipolar b/c she refuses to get help...i'm telling u no child should never have to listen her mother rant on about how she wished she was dead and life was not worth living...it is worth it damnit!!! or counsel her father on the state of his marriage and how to deal with his wife when she's losing touch with reality) i cannot do it.

mssumom - my father is also in denial about the state of his marriage, but it is better w/him. i'm glad u've found this site and welcome to PC!!!