(((Patty)) Ok, I'm just gonna tell it like I see it from back here, I don't know you, so don't take this personally. I think you are playing a chancy game of emotional roulette here. This guy is a cad, that's having the best of both worlds. Slinking around on his wife. Where does his loyalty lie? Kind of reminds me of the traveling salesman.... I can only see heartache for you here. When I think of the right man, or friend for that matter-honesty and repsect are two of the biggie qualities I look for. How bout you? Maybe time to reassess??? I understand that this didn't happen over night for you, but somewhere along the line, boundaries were rolled over. He just doesn't sound to me someone that has a whole lot of respect for women..... hope you find what you need or the strength to make the choice you need and desire. hugs Lisa