Maybe if he said he would love it if she were taller, not right after he told her he was intriged by the other other, it would just be a throw away comment. Put them one after the other, ya I can see why that hurt her feelings.

Plus being short can feel very un womanly, like grown up womenly, I dont think it matters compared to her backside. Which one is ok to be offended by. I am a very petite woman, and it is not always easy. I have felt unwomanly because of that.

I think lee has good sugestions. She does need to work on her self esteem like riot girl said. Tho not all people want to hear about how intrigued you are when another womwn or man walks in the room, and some people don't care about that. It bugs her so it would not be too hard to respect that and keep it to yourself.

I hope she will come around and talk to you about it. It's not break up material to me, I hope not to her. But she probably feels like you wish she were better, like the women you liked. Just let her know that is not the case.