I have a feeling moving closer to family and being reconnected with your support system in a more intimate way would help you tremendously. IF you can't do this, try to look for volunteer opportunities in your community.
http://www.volunteermatch.org/
I know that volunteering has given me purpose again. I'm working towards a paid job, but volunteering has taken me out of the house.
There are also support groups!
http://www.nami.org/Template.cfm?Sec...iateFinder.cfm
Getting connected with people who experience similar affections can help you feel included. Support groups aren't for everyone, but you won't know until you try.
I think you are primarily experiencing a lot of loneliness and its making the depression worse. It seems you have become isolated and your husband is not terribly supportive. There is nothing wrong with seeing a pdoc/therapist. Nothing wrong with medication. However, we're social creatures and we crave human interaction!
(PC is a good support place too!)
The last thing I have to say is that how you experience depression is fairly common. Our brains process stress (depression) the same way as we would process a physical endangerment. That is why symptoms of depression often manifest themselves through physical ailments and weaken the immune system.
I hope you're able to get help soon!