Have you asked her about the note-taking? Maybe you can reach a compromise about it. It's worth a shot.

My T looks at the notes from the session before at the beginning of our sessions, and usually asks me some general questions about my mood, etc. that he takes note of at he beginning. Then he sets his notes down for the remainder of the session unless something comes up that he wants to be sure to make note of or he wants to check on something from awhile back. After I leave, he takes a few minutes to jot down notes about our session--not much; usually about 5-10 lines worth of info which is mostly fairly summative about our session (I know this because he's read them to me from time to time to refresh my own memory).