I know exactly what you mean. I was pretty convinced that I had BPD for years with a doctor that refused to label me with anything at all, which I hated. He would say that it ws most important to treat the symptoms but in hindsight, I think he was full of sh^t. Why? Because actually giving or determining the right diagnosis helps with the approach to treatment and symptoms -- looking at them isolated from the entire disorder if there is on is faulty thinking in my opinion and doesn't help the patient/client. I mean I have BPD and that includes my fears, anxiety at times, depression, etc... I could stay on meds (which is what I think he wanted anyway) and mask each one of the symptoms but would I ever improve really? With the Dx of BPD officially, I can get therapy that gets to the root of the whole of symptoms.

I finally got to a doctor that out of just takling to me for a bit (I didn't mention the suspicion of bpd to her) she said "have you heard of bpd?" And proceeded to explain why she thought I had it. Thing is I already knew that at the point she Diagnosed me. I say all of this because, frankly if you've done a lot of research on it and feel you fit the description, you're probably right. I'd look into getting another diagnosis and find someone that deals with BPD specifically to determine if you have it or not.