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Originally Posted by wotchermuggle
I decide what we talk about so I'm in control in that sense. Good connection with T.
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I meant more along the lines of allowing ones self to be vulnerable, open and honest, not picking and choosing our thought and what we say carefully.
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Originally Posted by stopdog
I agree one cannot control the outside world. I do not agree that one cannot control oneself. Control is the word the therapist has used, but if issue is taken with the word, then, for me, then the term contained is not inaccurate. I find control of myself and/ or containment to be very useful and good.
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Yes this is what I mean.... useful in what way? It prevents what? It accomplishes what?
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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
I feel attachment to my t. I don't know about connected. I voted for in control and connected, assuming that means I am attached to him.
I feel I am in control in that, for the most part, I am in control of what we talk about bi am careful, for the most part, to control myself. I dislike crying in front of people, etc, and for the most part I don't. However, on the rare times I lose control, I am learning to trust that he will not use my loss of control against me and no harm comes to me from it.
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See that's what I mean about control...you have over came your fear on certain occasions. I guess the connection part too me would be attached as in mentally/emotionally bonded verses comfortable and known....
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Originally Posted by Chopin99
I am in control of my sessions and discuss what I want to discuss. However, since I'm starting the difficult shame work next week, I told T that she was most likely going to have to push me to get me to talk. So that's handing a bit of control over, I guess. I feel a connection most of the time I'm with T here lately, but it's not particularly strong.
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Exactly, you are willing to overcome the fear and even asked her to help you let go of your control and push you to do so....
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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
apart from whether you control your emotions during a particular hour - consider:
T is not vulnerable in that room;
the client is.
Client is encouraged to dive into deep emotional waters;
T stays dispassionately on the shore, providing the beacon to bring client back to land.
The system is what it is. To me, there is no doubt about who is really in control.
Doubt me? Try it out.
T: we have to stop now.
Client: no, I think we'll keep going for a while.
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The client is only vulnerable if they allow it.... that's how I see it. As for Control of the situation and physical restraints of time and location...yes, we have no control. Sometimes people just stand on the shore with T skipping rocks....
