Hello,

I am 27, my fiance is 29. We have been together for 3 and a half years.

About a week ago, my fiance's mother got a call from one of my fiance's past girlfriends, they dated about 6 years ago. things didnt work out so they decided to break up. She explained to my fiance's mother that when they broke up, she went back to her old boyfriend, patched things up. She discovered that she was pregnant, and obviously thought it was her boyfriends child... as the child grew up, her boyfriend noticed that the child did not react the same way that he does, didnt look like him, and just didnt have that connection that a father and son do. He demanded that a DNA test be done... when the results came back, it proved that he was in fact not the father of the child. This is when she decided to get in touch with my fiances mother, because she didnt have my fiance's contact details.

I have seen photos of the child, he is 5 years old already, and i know in my heart that my fiance is the father. the resemblance is as clear as day! We are currently waiting for the DNA results to come back. I know that i have to be his pillar of support at the moment and im really trying my best... but it gets difficult at times, trying to give him my support and still trying to come to terms with this myself. He has told me that if he is the father, he will want to be active in the childs life, and i fully understand that... The "supposed" father has basically thrown the child away (not wanting anything to do with him anymore) I know what its like to grow up without a father. But im heartbroken... we want to have a child someday of our own and never did i think that he would be the father of another womans child, its difficult for me to come to terms with this... i just need some advise or help or words of encouragement on how i should deal with this and how i should take things from here...

Thanks for reading.