Riotgirl,

I see, I think I was thinking about backside differently, like some people don't really have much of one, some are large, round, droopy, whatever, some is just natural disposition. I understand what you are saying. Although, what you get offended by might not be the same for others.

Yes I know it should not matter, nor does it. Our silly minds get in the way. I always grew up seeing a lot of tallness in women in the media, legs legs legs was the thing. However, I also realize if I were a 5 foot male instead, well that would be a bigger challenge in my mind. I am much more confident now, and it is not much of an issue anymore. I like my shortness now, but I don't want my bf to tell me he wish I were taller, kinda ouch. It would still hurt my feelings.

She might have brought up the height, but she wasn't asking to hear about how intrigued he was by her. Someone might bring up how someone is skinny, but it doesn't mean they want to hear how intriguing you find them, or wish you were too. I think this is more about social ideas. And not everyone is comfortable with hearing about who else their mate is attracted to, some people really are cool with this, and neither is wrong, just different.

I don't think that is walking on eggshells, just respect for their feelings. I do think it was an over reaction on her part, and we agree about that and her self esteem issues.. that SHE needs to work on it, I said that above. Even if she does, she still might not want to hear about his attraction to other women.