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Originally Posted by NoRelief
I asked her if she wanted soup because she's feeling sick for when she comes home. She accepted. She walked in just as I was finishing it, took it, ate it. Not a word. Not a thank you.
She said she wanted to take a bath. While the water was running, I tried to apologize for what I had said earlier in the day, and she replied with "Don't." I resisted that and continued to make my case, but she just got up and went in the bathroom for her bath, closing the door. Not a word. She says she's going to bed right after.
Now I'm really worried. I hope it's just a phase she has. Aren't apologies supposed to be accepted and people forgiven? I don't think I have received that yet. I'm not sure if I will.
Should I keep persisting or remain distant like she is doing to me?
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I am not sure, how long have you been with her? I don't give the silent treatment, or ignore my partner when he is talking to me. I also am not one to need a lot of time to think, or time to mull over stuff like this. So I don't know. It seems she is taking this pretty far.
If she had said I just need some time, then we can talk, well that's one thing, and you would probably be able to wait to talk to her, if you felt respected. Tho just saying "don't" hmm, if she wants you to communicate well with her, she should be willing to do so also. Also you said make your "case". An apology isn't really about making your case, it's about just apologizing, sincerity. Not about pleading your reason for doing what ever it was. Not saying you did that, I don't know, just the word case gives me that idea. Something I have done sometimes.
Apologies accepted, when the other person is ready. If they are not ready, it's kind of a fake acceptance, which doesn't mean much at all. if you want her to open to you and trust what you say, than you also have to trust her, and her ability to forgive. Unless it's been proven otherwise.
I think if she wants to feel respected by you, she should really be modelling that back. Sorry
I don't know which you should do.