Welcome to PC ((Julie Garbs)) and I'm sorry you're going through this. Yes it certainly sounds like your husband is addicted to porn and masturbation. There also something more serious happening with him taping your friends peeing and the voyeurism at a young age - this is illegal. Let me also reassure you, that your absent sex life isn't because you're not attractive or arousing enough for your husband.

Unfortunately this isn't going to get better unless he can see this is a problem and wants help. Its not fair to you since you're newly married. With an addiction like this, the person needs more and more stimulation to feel aroused and regular sex isn't enough. In addiction if a man depends on masturbation and constantly increases him visual stimulation, he can actually become impotent when he tries normal sex.

You need to be nicely honest with him and yourself. He may never reach out for help. You should also let him know taping women secretly is against the law and if he has anything else illegal on his computer, he could get in trouble. In the meantime, get yourself a therapist so you don't have to suffer alone - you deserve better and a promising life with a loving partner. Supplemental masturbation is fine, but not right to desert your partner as you've experienced. You don't want to live like this for the duration of your marriage.