Hi there.

I am so sorry you are going through this. Lynn and Mike are absolutely correct though...he needs to open up to a therapist and admit he needs some help with this, and you should speak to a therapist so you aren't bearing this burden on your own. You owe it to yourself, and he owes it to you to do everything in his power to fix this.

He has to understand, unless he opens up and is honest with his therapist, he/she can do little to no good. They have to understand the situation and his feelings on it, and he has to be able to talk about it in order to work through it. Keeping secrets isn't something conducive to therapy. I know something like that is hard to talk about, and I understand opening up about it to a relative stranger is difficult, but it severely limits the effectiveness of the therapist the more he downplays it.

Please know you're in my prayers. I hope both you and him are able to get through this.