I always try to tangle up my therapist when the topic turns to self-hate. I don't think self-hate is always irrational. Surely there is SOMEONE out there who is so evil and bad that they'd be stupid not to hate themselves, right? Like, if Hitler had sought therapy, I don't think the therapist would be trying to convince him that he was a lovable person.

But before she can even say it, I realize the obvious retort. Even if the above is true (that some people are inherently unlovable), how can I compare myself to Hitler? Am I that bad?

I don't really get self-love. Seems to me that if self-hatred is irrational, so is self-love. I can understand acceptance, though. And self-compassion. I can try to give myself a break when I screw things up and try to stop comparing myself to other people. I can also stop thinking about myself so much and try to live outside of my brain and self-consciousness.