I used to really hate myself. After my first round of therapy, I decided there were going to be some things I was going to change about myself. For example, I decided to work actively to be less selfish. I have been pretty successful with that, although I've noticed my selfishness increase in the past couple of months. I think it's because I've been actively working in shame and shame makes me focus inwardly. However, I'm still trying to look outside myself.

I like what TC said related to negative self-talk. I saw someone post on facebook one day that what we tell our children will become their inner voice. I believe this is true. I still hear the voices from my past tell me I'm not good enough.