I was not saying thick skinned was insensitive. Sore spot.. probably is never portrayed as anything good.. am I correct? Thick skinned is something we are told we should be, something to aspire to, that is what I meant by social perception of these ideas, which actually is not my own perception of them.

I don't suffer from low self esteem. I also like you suffered with that in my youth, and by 34 years old, I got that all cleared up. And i am glad you did too, it's not a good way to get through life.

I think we folks did look at the facts. I posted to the OP that her not being willing to talk, listen to him, or be respectful was not ok.

Actually I am not really sure what the issue is, colour me confused . I suspect you assumed I had low self esteem, and that you may have perhaps misunderstood what I was saying. I don't actually think our view is that much different on this topic either. I don't really understand why the OP's GF will not talk to him about this, and let it go, I already told him that.

All I meant by egg shells is this. One time I reacted to something in a certain way with my ex husband, actually the offence was much different then this, and not by accident. My ex took that reaction and turned it into ~ he forever had to walk on egg shells, which was not the case at all. But he would not let it go. When the OP said "but I can't help but think she will still remember my comment. Like hiding a trump card or something. Then again, I've thought this with everyone, and I always try to stay on everyone's good side." it reminded me of that situation and I would not want that to happen with him. Thinking everyone is hiding trump cards, can't be good for a relationship either.

Self esteem would help them brush it off, yes of course. I think that goes without saying. But I have already said she needs to work on her self esteem three times.

I responded back to you perhaps because of the sore spot, which is not the case, nor am I suffering from low self esteem. And also because of the "Sorry, I disagree with you LOL!!" Seemed a bit well.. like you didn't understand what I was saying, did not read all the posts in the thread, or I have no idea.... or in your face, maybe. So I thought I would expand. I am just guessing here. I don't expect for my guesses to be correct. I am not going to assume.

But I don't have a problem with what you had said, I am not sure what the problem is, I understood your point and I respect your opinion. I hope this clears up what ever it is. Honestly I have been here two years, and I am quite a polite friendly person, and I know you are too. I don't know why or how this thread became us debating, but I am hoping we understand each other.

I have seen other posts of yours and I actually do take notice, and respect your opinions.