I don't know what to say when insecure people ask me things. My friend (not a gf), asks me things I know is sensitive for her, like her shape and weight, what am I supposed to say? "Do you think I'm fat?" I can't even say what is obvious, that yea she is indeed fat, but that kind of stuff never bothered me. At least she doesn't go drama on me if I say the wrong thing. And I have learned to have her rude comments (she doesn't reflect, she just talks) about me just bounce off.

At some point in life we have to just accept other people will not be perfect socially, and that no matter how much we like them to, no one can change their ways to please us. And if they could, it would be fake anyway.