my mother sent me a really expensive package in the mail today...like boots worth $300. now they are really nice and i absolutely love them but in light of recent events and my relationship with my mother in general it has put me in an extremely difficult position. i was freaking out this morning til my dad informed me she'd got them on special at under 100. so i don't feel quite so bad now, but i am trying to avoid contact w/her and withdrawal gradually from her atm b/c it really isn't good for my mental health (see my last posting), and her doing stuff like this, even though ppl think she is just been nice, it makes me feel like i am being manipulated and guilt-tripped. like she thinks i can be brought or smthn. doesn't she get it? what i want from her isn't designer boots or money or anything like that, it's just to have a real mum who listens to me and is there for me. u can't put a value to that.