girlwithbrownhair,
It is very exciting that you have met a guy that you like and that he is perfect! I really hope for your sake that you can work through the avoidant tendencies and allow yourself to get to know him and him to get to know you. I know how hard it is!

You are young! LOL I am 49 and have been married for 26 years. It took severe depression for me to actually go for any treatment and being avoidant makes me pretty "treatment resistant". I guess in a way my husband is avoidant too and, I'm sorry to say it, but we don't have the greatest relationship.....I do not allow myself to be open with anyone - including my husband. Lucky for him ,he is very independent and does not depend on me to do things with him. I also have two adopted sons, ages 19 and 17. I guess I have become more avoidant the older I am.

I have been diagnosed with double depression (major depression and chronic depression), anxiety disorder NOS, and avoidant personality disorder. All combined it's hard for me to hope or look forward to anything - I fantasize about suicide. Currently I am taking a whole bunch of meds: Cymbalta, Buspar, Seroquel XR, Remeron, Ambien. I live for taking the bedtime meds - sleep is what I look forward to.

Let me know what you decide to do about they guy in your life.

Take care.