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What a jerk!!!! My daughter just got married and my x-husband came to the wedding. Well, he abandoned me and “our” children when they were very young. To make a long story short…he said that he didn’t want contact with them because it hurt HIM too much. Over the years, I decided I did not want to be angry at him anymore and chose to forgive him. After getting reacquainted on Facebook about five years ago, in my desperation, I almost got back together with him. Well, he went off the deep end pretty much and blew me and the kids off AGAIN! So, the kids and I went on with our lives.
Okay, so he shows up for the wedding acting all healthy and like he really had it together. I was genuinely happy for him and we welcomed him and tried to make him feel as comfortable as possible. Once he left, he and I began texting and reminiscing over the past. Well, that was all fine and dandy until I initiated a text and he totally blew me off, and a couple days later, I texted him again. He sent me, what I considered a flippant answer to a simple question. So, I didn’t bother to text him again. Well, come to find out….he never even wished “our” daughter a happy birthday…even after I kindly reminded him of that special day.
YES! I know!!! I am an idiot!!! I just wanted to teach my children about forgiveness!!! I never had any intention of or hope in getting back with him a third time…I just was hopeful that because he is now “healthy” that maybe he would treat the kids better. He even said he has a lot to make up for.
I am angry once again! How does a person forgive someone, but keep healthy boundaries??? I do not get how to function in any kind of relationship!!! I am always getting burned no matter what I do. I am so sick of it and I want to become a hermit crab and bury myself in the sand never to return to society!!!
Please let me have it!!! I deserve it!!! I welcome any and all comments…good or bad! Thank you! Cat
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