I am wondering about another woman too now. Not a wife. He is 27 and not very mature.
He lives in the house of his mother but is moving to a small appartment next week. He wanted me to come over.
But I can't help wonder if there is no girlfriend. He said he had female friends and said that he tried once to hit on one of them, but that they remained friends and haven't seen each other since.
Of course I still feel unconvinced. Last sunday he got a sms from a female friend. he read it to me, including the smiley. When I was pissed off, he said that there was nothing between them, that he was a honest person and that he would never lie to me blah, blah
When we met he said he had an affair 2 months ago and nothing else since (only one 2 year relationship years ago). He had a condom in his wallet. That's not something you do if you are involved with someone unless you are a total jerk.
He spent most week-ends with me and all evenings after work on MSN or hours on the phone. When could he meet that woman ?
But still something is fishy. But I need to find out to move on. It gets to me.
He called me "Sophie" at one point (that's not MY name) but I must admit I called him by another name once too, because his behavior reminded me of an ex-boyfriend. I must also admit that I showed him sms by other male friends to reassure him (no secrets...) but it may have had the opposite effect. I don't know. I just sent him an e-mail and asked directly. What good is speculation in these matters ? Right ?