My mother also had some "unseen" power over me so that I could NOt let her know how her past actions had hurt me to the core. I had never felt loved by her, had never been TOLD she loved me, she never even hugged or touched me for that matter. It was the same with my Dad.

My psychiatrist told me to write her a letter and MAIL it to her. In the letter I was to write every single thing that I felt. I was to go back as far as I could remember and write everything. Then mail it. The only difference was I was NOT LIVING AT HOME.

I did mail it, and she wrote me back -- and she basically "pooh-poohed" everything i said -- she did NOT validate anything. So I got no satisfaction from it at all other than the fact that I wrote it. That DID make me feel better, just by getting my feelings out.

Oh well. Hugs, Lee