or, choose neither and take the time to get your head together to figure out what you want... I don't mean that in a rude way. I remember going through a similar dilemma when I first met my husband (he was the "Andy" in your situation, and I had a "Nick" who was emotionally ready to marry me). I didn't take the time to figure out why I was waffling so much. All's well that ends well (I married the "Andy", with zero regrets), but I still wish I had not played with both of them to the extent that I did. It caused needless hurt and drama, all because I didn't know what I wanted.