It's a family date night for us, with dessert at the end. We have 3 a year, entertainment (arcade or movie), Dinner of birthday persons choice, and a cup cake. Our son also gets "can't get in trouble" and no chores. Is there something you enjoy but don't take the time to do it or do something low key? My dad's birthday he spends fishing, My mom kayaks all day. Something like that so you actually look forward to the day.