I hear what you are saying. I guess what really bothers me is that he could just disappear out of my kid's lives again and not think twice about it. That makes me so mad. I see the pain on my kid's face and I see the damage it has done. There is no way to ignore that. Believe me, the next time he or anyone in his family tries to contact me...if by chance that ever happens, I am going to say something...even though it won't do any good. They have the thick skin as well as hard hearts! Thanks for your reply