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Old Nov 11, 2012, 05:43 PM
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You know that I relate to this issue, Chopin. Not too many have responded to my thread about my session because of the focus on touching, I presume. Touch except for hugging by a T doesn't get talked about very much.

I have a dumb question. What exactly do you mean by maternal touch? To me, it means hugging and holding hands. Hugging other women is NOT frowned upon in society. I'm not talking about touch by a T; that's another issue, though related. Are you talking about wanting it from your T, other than hugging? Holding hands with women DOES seem weird except in brief instances for comfort. I don't do that with women friends though, when I have held hands briefly, it felt good. Holding hands with my T felt very shameful at first but she made me feel it was all right.

I don't think it's shameful to want maternal touch at all. I think it's confusing for me because, with my T, there may be a sexual component too, but mainly it's me wanting to be comforted by "Mommy".

I'm wondering whether other straight woman would want to offer maternal touch other than hugging. Or can maternal touch come from a man?

I'm getting confused as I write this and would like to discuss it more, especially exactly what you mean by maternal touch. I didn't touch my Mom very much after I became a teenager, I'd say. We didn't even hug in my family as adults. When I was little, I know she hugged me and kissed me, and I remember when I was 9 or 10 we called each other a silly name and rubbed noses.

I will be interested to hear what your T says about this subject. I admire you for treading into these scary and deep waters in therapy.
Thanks for this!
bamapsych, Chopin99