I would have responded to your thread if I had seen it...apparently I did not! I'll try to find it when I'm done with my response.

Thanks very much for responding to my thread.

I identify as a bisexual woman, attracted to both sexes. I will answer your questions with examples from my own experiences with my mom, a teacher with whom I had a mentor/student relationship with when I was age 14-16 (who is still unmarried at age 48...infer what you will), a straight friend of mine from my past (who was touchy-feely), my ex-GF (but only times when touch was not sexual...which was rather often), and my current T (who identifies as touchy-feely). My current set of female friends are not very touchy-feely.

Hugging (for longer than the 3-5 seconds hugs normally last):
Mom - only when I was younger than 10, and then, not very often.
Teacher - yes, she would hold me for 1-5 minutes at a time.
Friend - would sometimes hug for 20-30 seconds.
ex-GF - will hug me at length sometimes now. In the past, yes, hugs were long.
T - let me hang on to her for 20-30 seconds and returned the hug; then stopped it when it caused a block. A couple of weeks ago when I asked for a "long hug", she held on and wouldn't let me let go for 1.5-2 minutes.

Sitting next to someone who has her arm around me:
Mom - not often and only before age 10.
Teacher - would do this a lot.
Friend - on occasion.
ex-GF - yes.
T - hasn't done it, but described it as normal in a mother-daughter relationship.

Sitting next to someone resting my head on her shoulder:
Mom - this is what I tried when she told me, "Stop it, that's weird" when I was 10.
Teacher - would let me do this if upset.
Friend - no.
ex-GF - yes.
T - expressed much surprise that my mom reacted that way. Said she still lets her 26-year-old daughter do this.

Holding hands:
Mom - almost never.
Teacher - yes.
Friend - yes.
ex-GF - yes.
T - no.

Thanks for sharing all of the above. Everyone has the same basic needs but some have more needs than others. It seems like your perception that wanting maternal touch is shameful comes from your Mom's attitude, doesn't it?
There is not a sexual component with my T, despite my bisexuality. She is simply not my "type". I'm not in denial about it either; I've tried to get myself sexually worked up over her and I just can't. I don't know too many straight women who want to "mother" another (I can think of only two examples). I don't think maternal touch can be satisfied through a man's touch. I enjoy my H's touch and find it rather comforting, but it does not satisfy the maternal craving.

I know this is my issue, not yours, but if you're bisexual how do you know that you like maternal touching, and not the touching because you just like to be touched and enjoy touching women? I'm not sure that makes sense. I mean, if you weren't bisexual, do you think you would like to be touched by women just as much?

Touching my T's hands feels a lot different from my H's too. Hers feel safer because she is so caring in ways he's not.

I hope I helped answer your questions. I don't have a lot of answers, or I wouldn't be in the predicament I'm in.