Oh I know. I don't feel that way at all. Hopefully we can help each other out and others as well.

I couldn't quote the quotes, so I copied and pasted some of what we both said.

Thanks for sharing all of the above. Everyone has the same basic needs but some have more needs than others. It seems like your perception that wanting maternal touch is shameful comes from your Mom's attitude, doesn't it?

Oh yes. T and I already identified that in and of itself. She was truly shocked at how my mom told me to "stop it" when I leaned my head on her shoulder. When I told her about it, I quickly demonstrated what I did on T. She asked me, "Was your mom sexually abused? What on earth is wrong with that?"

There is not a sexual component with my T, despite my bisexuality. She is simply not my "type". I'm not in denial about it either; I've tried to get myself sexually worked up over her and I just can't. I don't know too many straight women who want to "mother" another (I can think of only two examples). I don't think maternal touch can be satisfied through a man's touch. I enjoy my H's touch and find it rather comforting, but it does not satisfy the maternal craving.

I know this is my issue, not yours, but if you're bisexual how do you know that you like maternal touching, and not the touching because you just like to be touched and enjoy touching women? I'm not sure that makes sense. I mean, if you weren't bisexual, do you think you would like to be touched by women just as much?

Touching my T's hands feels a lot different from my H's too. Hers feel safer because she is so caring in ways he's not.

Because there is a difference between sexual touching and non-sexual touching. I don't think being bisexual makes a difference.