I had sex and plan to have more sex with a guy who is not exclusive with me. He is my midwife's ex-husband and still her best friend. He has sort of a family in Asia - a woman and two sons - whom he visits every month for a month, and supports. The other month, he lives here in the Bay Area with his oldest daughter with the midwife, and parents his son with the midwife (the son lives with the midwife) as well as, part-time, the midwife's youngest child with another man. An interesting arrangement, for sure. He told me of another relationship in the past that ran in parallel with the relationship with the woman in Asia. There might be some other concurrent relationships that I am yet to learn about. I am cool with all that, but I do not know what to do about oral sex. Without oral sex, it was kind of incomplete. I do know that unprotected oral sex is relatively safe - better than vaginal sex and far better than **** sex. Well, **** sex I do not do and vaginal sex is taken care of by using condoms... what about oral? If I understand correctly, the guy's other women are educated professionals in their 40s, so it is not that he lives in wild brothels, but still - he has multiple partners... I have never used dental dams and the film that is placed on the vulva for cunnilingus. I think I would feel awkward using them. At the same time, the guy is a friend I have known for 12 years, I am relaxed with him... if I feel awkward with him, I will feel even more awkward with some completely new guy. That makes me feel that I should venture ahead now. Please tell me your experiences with these products. I will also ask my GP about them; I bet she will have some good ideas. He is a very nice guy, by the way.