I have a beautiful girlfriend who I have been with for the last two and a half years. She has been nothing but caring, loyal, faithful and supportive to me in every way. Before me, however she had slept with 4 others, me 2, although numbers are not the problem. This I know shouldn't be a problem whatsoever but it is always on my mind, it clouds my memories of her and makes me think of her negatively as if she has in some way cheapened herself and that I am in some way less special.

I know that this is absurd but it affects me daily and is the only issue we ever have. It drives me mad thinking that other guys can see her in the same light in which I have seen her and I over think it constantly and wind myself up, I cannot seem to control this and it makes me say nasty, offensive things to the poor special girl. I cannot believe that she is still with me. Now, I am not stupid (not too anyway) and I know that this is MY problem, she has not done anything wrong. I know this and I tell myself it every day but it doesn't stop the feeling of sadness and disgust at the thought of her with other men in her past. I know that I have a serious insecurity problem.

I don't stop her from doing what she wants or going out or what she wears or anything else, it is only this.....it is driving me crazy. I have heard all the usual stuff ie. get over yourself, she loves you now, she has chosen you etc etc, but this feeling will not stop. Please please let me know how to 1. Stop having these bad thoughts so often 2. How to deal with them without becoming anxious and into overdrive 3. Stop blurring separate good past memories with what she did years ago 4. Stop feeling like this. It really is ruining my life. I know I have the issue and we have both talked about it extensively, but it never ceases, it is always there. I don't know what to do. Please help me