K, here goes....

All these threads lately on physical contact and hugs in T got me thinking. I work with a body worker, which I mentioned on another thread. She knows about my past and helped me through a crisis before. She used to give me hugs when I had a difficult time. She hasn't given me one in years now and I'm sure she has her own reasons (my guess is that she is afraid physical contact would frighten me when triggered).

During our work together there are times when I'm triggered, get flashbacks, etc. Sometimes to the point of tears (and I rarely cry in front of people). She's asked what would help. And I want to say it so badly. I want to just say.... a hug. Or physical contact of some kind like she's offered in the past. But I can't make myself say it. I know it's the little part of me, which embarrasses me. But given that she has withdrawn touch from me when I'm triggered, maybe she doesn't feel it's right any more. We never discussed this issue.... after all, she's not my T. But... is it right of me to ask for this for times when I'm triggered? How can I tell her this in a not so direct way?

Any advice much appreciated.