>> But I quess I should watch who I take under my "wings" and let into my my "house" anymore...

If there are certain people who you feel don't respond well to your "fun side" I guess it is ok to watch your behaviour... but I wouldn't make it a general rule and certainly not let it cut into your fun time or effect the "real" side of your personality. Find more people who who like to have fun with you! Someone here has a great sig: "if you can't change the people around you, change the people around you."

I couldn't think of an example of when I wouldn't be silly with Michelle but I guess that is one right there. If we were with someone who we cared about, valued their friendship, and they happened to be the sort who might be embarressed when people draw attention to themselves the way miki and i inevitably do... then we would likely "tone it down" if we were out with them. It would be out of respect for them. And we certainly could still have our own kind of fun without being "flamboyant" about it.

You know best the situation. If it seems like there are times when it is effecting your friendships with people you care about, or effecting work or school or career or whatever, i certainly don't want to tell you "to heck with them! be yourself!" but I would hate to see you change just for the sake of pleasing others.

Like EVERYTHING in life it is a matter of finding the right balance, and only you know where that balance is for you.

I guess in some way bottom line is not to feel bad about it or that it is a character flaw that needs to be changed or something. In fact I definitely think that is a great attribute of character. I certainly seek out people who like to have fun the same ways that i do. But if there are times that you make the decision to "act" more mature just for the sake of making the situation easier, and I guess ultimately making yourself more comfortable in the situation. And that is quite different than trying to make a fundamental change in yourself.

That really is the case everywhere. I certainly wouldn't wear shorts and my yoda hat to a wedding or funeral (with an exception for the funeral of Chuckles the Clown from the infamous Mary Tyler Moore episode... and also I actually did wear my yoda hat at a wedding, but it was an unofficial cerimony of two star wars fans that got married while on line for episode II... they are in the Triumph the Dog sketch of that event) But that doesn't mean that wearing the yoda hat is a bad thing. There are times when I choose not to draw attention to myself for my own comfort.

I'm rambling again.

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