I think it's wrong to receive and not give. Seems a double standrd, and honestly rude. I'm in no position where this is a worry, but I would hope my one day s/o when we take that plunge would understand that would be selfish of me if I were to want but not give.

I think you're safe. Herpes is the only thing I can think of (aside from "the big one" so to speak... ), but I already mentioned that you're probably in the clear for the former. The latter you should be just fine. I'm not worried at all there, but I think asking for a test is fine, and well within your right. It is done via bloodwoek, and results take a bit to come back, but it is definitive.

My best to you both.