Some guy who is so focused on weight is shallow in my opinion. I'm not skinny, you know? I am BMI of 29 but was a 31 before (lost 30 lbs this year partially because I was sick, partially due to the baby.) Anyway, my husband never, ever, ever says I am fat. He sometimes complains he is fat (which he isn't,) and I tell him he's not the fat one, I am. And he says, "whatever." He doesn't expect me to be a super model, you know.

I'm also a "busty" girl. I am very busty, actually. My husband loves that about me. He thinks I"m so sexy. No my tummy area is not great, I can't wear a bikini or whatever. But he doesn't put me down or tell me I'm fat or call me names or make me feel bad about my weight. This is how a man should be. If he wants to be with you, he needs to accept not everyone can be a skinny model type body.

And if that's what he wants and it bothers him so much, then he needs to stop harrassing you and go elsewhere for a woman. You're beautiful! You are biking to work, that is so healthy! You are a very, very smart lady. You have accomplished so much in life and overcoming your health issues. You do no deserve to be treated in such a way. You're a great person, Hamster, and you deserve to be with someone who appreciates all of you and not nag you about being "fat" (which you're not.)