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Originally Posted by hankster
Sounds like D is feeling insecure. There was a reason you didn't get together before, is this it? He gets hostile when he gets insecure? When you do better?
You are using all kinds of muscle groups you're not aware of, just keeping yourself erect on your bike. That's why your waist is disappearing. You really are inspiring.
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Really??! That is splendid! I mean, it is such an easy and fun thing to do, it does not feel like work at all.
We did not get together before because I preferred other guys to him. He is also absolutely horrified of my having other lovers. Just absolutely horrified. He thinks it is risky to be with me because there is a possibility of my having other lovers. You would think that it is selbstverstaendlich that seeing him at best every few months I would have someone else local, or more than one, and it would be OK. If I could go back, I would probably try living together with him and being exclusive - I know I
can, as I lived in a mutually monogamous marriage with ex H for 12 years which proves my ability to do that. But with a LD relationship, there is no point. But he does not see it this way; he was terrified of the prospect. So he definitely is not going to learn that there is anyone else involved - the geographic distance makes keeping boundaries intact easy. Whether he sensed something and reacted with hostility out of insecurity... I do not know.
By the way the Maine guy (sex over Skype) knows this story and thinks that D. is an asshole with insecurity issues.