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Originally Posted by ECHOES
Carol,
Could you ask your uncle directly, via email, the questions you have and the needs you feel you will have some day that you might need help with? Maybe you already have been very specific, I don't know.
It sounds to me that your uncle might not know what to say right now.
If he knows specifically what ways you would like him to help, then he could respond and say what he is able and willing to do, when the need is there.
Are there other ways you could prepare for being alone, something we all have to prepare for and adjust to. That might be a different living arrangement, or more reliance on community programs and help.
It sounds very disappointing and stressful for you right now. I don't think your uncle meant to let you down, but it does sound like he's being evasive for what could be many reasons. Perhaps it would be best to clear the air by phone or email? |
I think I have been pretty direct. I asked him what he could do.
And I don't know why my roommate will not call him or email him and ask if my uncle could come thru for me when he is gone. I asked Bruce (roomate) again the other night, "How do you know Uncle __________ will help me out?" Bruce said, "I just know." I told him, "I need you to ask him."
I am afraid to ask him myself. I feel like it's not appropriate. But I think Bruce should ask him since he's the one who is so convinced that Uncle ____ will.
But Bruce evades it too.
I agree thta I need to make some plan, either call or email some ppl to see what's out there.
Bruce and Uncle _________ obviously will not help, if they will not even talk to me about it or to each other. My theory.
I did ask Uncle many times what he could do.
His answers were, "Well discuss it." And it never happens. The closest he came back in June was helping us with our budgets.
I will not expect any more, incl. answers from him from now on.
I will accept him only as a 2x year friend.
Carol