Harley I receive and do not give. Before I met my H I was raped by an older boyfriend for a 9 mo time frame. This is something that was forced upon me. So I simply do not give. On occasion I have but I greatly prefer not to give. I told my H about this before we got married and he gets that I do not want to do that. But he still seems to want to give. I seldom say "No Thanks". He just know's there is a reason why I don't want to. There are enough other things we can share.