I have not asked yet about it. Eventually I might. I do know from the midwife that the mother of the kids in Asia was not happy with his having split loyalties back when he was still living with the midwife. The midwife was OK with his having a relationship in Asia, but not vice versa. Even now, the woman in Asia says that given that his son will go to college (probably on the East Coast) next year, he should move in with her permanently. He does not want to - he likes splitting his time between Asia and America. That's the life he wants to lead. Plus, he parents the midwife's youngest child even though she is not his biological child. So he will continue to shuttle. I am thinking that if she did not like his being not with her 100% back then, she still might not like it, but it is not my problem - it is his problem and even more so her problem. Why should I care about what she thinks? I just want to be free from STD's. In my twenties, I was deeply in love with a married guy, married with 5 children roughly my age. He reciprocated the feelings A LOT, being completely crazy about me, but in terms of sex it was very minimalistic because he did not want to "make his wife feel dispreferred". That went on for two years. I was very frustrated but I myself played this game, not going all the way etc. because of his wife. Granted, I knew her very well so my caring for her feelings was justified. But that terribly frustrating experience has exhausted me entirely and I have resolved to never care about someone's wife's feelings again. I just leave it between the man and his other woman / women. I consider it my obligation to be discreet, but that is about it.