nathaniel1993
Being gay is not a choice, and your brother may have been fighting this battle inside for a long time. Once he knew what was going on, and could no longer deny it to himself, it must have devestated him. Even though there shouldn't be any shame in being gay, society tends to make gay people outcasts, often the object of hate crimes.

Your brother may be angry with himself, even discusted with himself, and that may manifest as anger. Finding magazines depicting sexual sadism in his room may a reflection of that anger. I agree that magazines like that are disturbing, and he needs help both with accepting himself and dealing with his anger.

Coming on to you may be part of his confusion. I had a friend who, at the onset of realizing her sexual prefence, told me that occassionally she felt aroused by her younger sister who slept in the same room. I don't know where that comes from, but your brother is not the only one to go through that. Imagine how you would feel if you had, or thought you had intimate feelings towards him. In essence, trade places with your brother.

If your brother has been molested, he probably wouldn't want to talk about it. Girls that have been molested at a young age, sometimes become promiscuous. It sounds backwards, but some do. When women are raped or molested, they are often overcome with guilt and shame. It can be hard for them to talk about the experience. In men, not only do they have to deal with the shame they feel, but they also feel that it is a relection of their own weakness. After all, a "real man" would have beat the crap out of the person attempting to molest or rape them.

Regardless of the cause, your brother needs help before he hurts himself or someone else. There are hotlines, where your brother would not have to show his face, psychologists and psychiatrists, or, depending on your religious background, a minister. Getting him to go might be hard. He needs to know that it is not his fault if he was molested, or his choice if he is gay.

Don't give up on your brother. He needs you more now than ever.

Sam2