Weird: he just answered my e-mail saying : "No, no there is no other woman. How could you ever believe this...? I am not a jerk (at least I hope). I would never do this to anybody. I hope you are better. You deserve to be happy....". On the one hand sounds like he wants to move on, on the other hand it sounds like he can't.
He blocked me on MSN. First I was angry since I never contacted him first, so he knows there is no risk of an unwanted contact (I have his 2 phone numbers, so it is silly anyway). Knowing him I think I understand now. He can't stand seing me online and not writing me. Last week we tried to break up (well, he did) but after seing me online, he couldn't help but write. Over the last week-end, we weren't supposed to communicate. Result : he called me after 1 day.
But things were stuck since he never took the time to think about everything. Fear is clouding his judgment. What can I do.
I mean of course I won't try to get him back. It has to be his decision. But for him to find out what he wants, would it be better to leave him alone or to keep in touch from a distance ? After all, he blocked me on MSN but answered my e-mail (very contradictory).
I am not sure he is very good at thinking alone efficiently, and I am afraid he might retreat again in his "protective bubble" as he calls it.
A psychologist told me, this fear might either help us build a very strong relationship or be very destructive.
I agree. I don't want to give it up now, but what would be the best behavior with this particular type of individual ? He said a short while ago, he needed time. Than that he didn't want me to waste my time (as if he knew that he didn't want me, but then he suddenly really wanted to give it a try).
that's ok but as I said I am afraid he might hide again. Any experience with young, unmarried guys with not much experience and a lot of fears ? Thanks!