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Originally Posted by Big Mama
Harley I receive and do not give. Before I met my H I was raped by an older boyfriend for a 9 mo time frame. This is something that was forced upon me. So I simply do not give. On occasion I have but I greatly prefer not to give. I told my H about this before we got married and he gets that I do not want to do that. But he still seems to want to give. I seldom say "No Thanks". He just know's there is a reason why I don't want to. There are enough other things we can share.
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Do forgive me!! I am SO sorry! I had skipped right over your post!
I was speaking strictly in scenarios unlike yours, namely the case of Hamster's ex...that is certainly very much an extenuating circumstance, and I think anyone would be selfish to expect you TO give if it made you uncomfortable. Indeed, discomfort with any sexual act should make it an instant no-go, with that being essentially the end of the story. I did an awful job of conveying that, and I feel awful for it.
Please accept my sincerest apologies...I certainly didn't mean to imply you were selfish or anything at all of that nature.