I agree that is what it is commonly used for.. but I would rather be called special and put into the category of cognitively challenged, if the reverse means being lumped in with the disposition the person who said it might have in the first place.

I would rather be cognitively challenged, or mentally ill challenged, than to be heart challenged or compassion challenged Especially if one of these seems to be a bit of a choice, and the other two categories are not.

Special isn't a bad word, just people using it badly.

Koko, It's not a fun situation, you know.. I understand the feeling of not being successful by others definitions, however they don't always fit my definition of successful either even if they feel they are. That's okay, they don't have to fit mine and I don't have to fit theirs. Tho I don't go around making them feel bad about it, nor would I even mention it, it isn't really my business. I am sorry your siblings are not treating you with respect on this, or dignity. Try to find some comfort in knowing who you are and how you conduct yourself, that is what will make the biggest difference to yourself in the end.