Do you mean that you say it in a "semi-humorous way" but your T doesn't think its funny? I used to describe how my siblings and I used to respond to our father coming home as the "scattering of cockroaches (there were alot of children (well only 6)... i thought it was semi humorous...my T just looked at me... and said you were not cockroaches.... he told me once that my sense of humor was one of my endearing qualities (that pissed me off by the way)...but he would not support me in using humor to make light of an abusive situation. perhaps that is why it stops cold.