Wow... good point Ben...or rather good points.. ty What you said makes a lot of sense to me...Looks like for maybe the first time I did something right by saying nothing.. Takes deep breath..................

Thanks Ben, Rapunzel, Bethsway and myself ...This goes to prove it is sometimes good to ask other folks their opinions... Should she bring it up again I will now have something other than neg things to say to her and will suggest she talk it over with her T....I doubt his intent was to hurt her....I guess saying someone was a "cold turd" was rather new to me.... and it caught me off guard...Maybe I was in a "protective" mode and wanted to protect her... Foolish of me, because i could have stirred up things.....I am sooo glad I asked and and also soo very glad I didn't say a anything to her........Very good advice indeed....

Thanks again and hugggggggs