So all this really IS about money. If they had given him the 25K, none of this would have happened. Good grief.

Well, they will not spend it wisely when they inherit from the will, so why not give it to them now? I understand that your parents don't want to SEE it wasted, but wouldn't it be better to try to keep the family together? Or don't you think it would work at this point if they gave it to him now? Do you think it's worth a try or not?

I don't understand why he's alienating himself from the extended family. That doesn't even make sense.

It sounds to me like your brother really needs therapy, but I'm sure HE doesn't think so. And I know it would be impossible to convince him of it too. Wishful thinking, huh?

Anyway - just wondered if giving him the money now would work, but I'm sure you've already thought of that. You're in my thoughts & prayers. I know this is hard on everyone. God bless you ALL. Hugs, Lee