Woah.... this means you're seeing him? That is so strong and brave, and congrats on that!

Hmm, not sure why you should be forced to see a male. Def something to talk about with your T. I also didn't realize they can contact them without your permission. This whole thing is definitely worth discussing in T. The more she knows about why going to a dr isn't comfortable for you, the better your communication is, the more you will feel power over your care. If there is no female on their staff, perhaps if your T knows about this she can let you know if a female becomes available.

Sending good thoughts for your appt tomorrow. You can do it.