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Originally Posted by hankster
That's what I realized as I was writing this. He WAS cruel, as was the FOO. T said I never told him the story before; I said I did, he just didn't remember it, and or I didn't tell it emphatically enough because I couldn't face it yet myself.
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I've certainly gotten that the FOO was cruel; that fact is all over your stories. I am sad that he was cruel to you and that you did not get the support and love you needed from your marriage. I made bad choices in partners for many of my early adult years, people who could not be there emotionally for me, who were remote but safe. If you do not engage with me, then you have no opportunity to hurt me. I lived with people at arm's length and that worked for me, until it didn't.
But, clearly, you got tired of the cruel dude, and went on to another who was less like your FOO?